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Memory Lane Cemetery, Caddo County, Oklahoma

Submitted by:
Dale Talkington


Monday, March 26, 2012

Edna Patricia Hamley Carlton

Edna Patricia Hamley Carlton was born in Boise, Idaho, on October 4, 1923, to Patrick and Maizee Marguerite McClintock Hamley.

She passed from this life on Thursday, March 22, 2012, in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma.

Her parents were employed by the Bureau of Indian Affairs who worked in a variety of places such as Couer d' Alene, Idaho, Snonomish, Washington, and the Havasupi Reservation in the bottom of the Grand Canyon where her mother had a mule team pack down a piano, as she was an accomplished rag-time pianist, before moving and settling at Old Town in Anadarko.

Pat graduated from Anadarko High School in 1941 and then graduated from Brown's Business College in Oklahoma City in 1943.

She then went to work for the Department of Defense in Washington DC, obtaining an 'ultra-pearl' clearance and had the job on the personalities desk searching World War II photographs trying to validate the death of the Japanese General Tojo.

After the war, Pat returned to Anadarko while still working as a Civil Servant at Ft. Sill where she met Chester Lee Carlton, the love of her life.

Pat and C.L. were married on Cinco de Mayo in 1952 in Brownsville, Texas.

In 1953 while living in Anadarko, they had a daughter, Kathryn Patricia Kay Carlton Burleson. Soon after, they moved to Lawton to be closer to work.

In 1955, C.L.'s mother, Rosie, came to Anadarko after being widowed to live with them for a while before marrying and moving there.

Pat and Chester bought some land adjoining Rosie's and returned once more to Anadarko to live out their lives on that loved piece of land.

They bought a home next to the Old Cotton Gin and moved the two-story beautiful home out on the land they bought. They took great pride and worked hard to refurbish the old house and turn it into a show-piece with chandeliers, drapes, and furnishings from various parts of the world.

Unfortunately, a house fire in 1995 claimed this house and many of the things so cherished inside. They rebuilt on the exact site where the old house had been for over 30 years.

Pat took early retirement from the Department of Defense, but, being the hard-working woman she was, she returned to the work force - this time with the Bureau of Indian Affairs.

Patricia was proud to claim her Turtle Mountain Chippewa heritage, so she thought what better place to work than for other Native Americans - just as her parents did.

Pat retired in September, 1984 from the Anadarko Area Office as the Personnel Officer, with 44 years of government service.

She was hoping to have some quality time with her father, who was in his mid-90's at her retirement, but that was cut short with his death in May of 1985.

Pat then fulfilled her need to work hard by farming and ranching fulltime.

Chester had a stroke and was unable to drive the tractor, but could still drive the trucks, get the food ready for hungry workers, and continue to be a great advisor and mechanic on all the machinery.

Both Pat and Chester enjoyed raising cattle and horses and their daughter, Kay, got the love of horses instilled in her by her mother's love of them and her father's love of all animals.

Because of the family's love of animals and especially horses, they bought a beautiful palomino mare, who is the grand dam of the current show horses that Pat loved so much.

The family, now joined by Kay's husband, Linden (L.B.), started showing horses as a hobby that entailed many weekends out of the year and consumed them in a new passion.

These horses have become the highest ranking in PHBA history in several divisions and have impressive show records that will take a long, long time (if ever) to surpass.

All good things must come to an end and in July 2002, Chester passed away, leaving Pat, Kay and L.B. lost for a while.

Mike Stotts, who had helped during hay season and other jobs on the Carlton and Burleson farms, became the ranch foreman and a valuable asset to the family. His skills as a carpenter, gardener, wrangler, fence-builder are unsurpassed, and later a friend who could always be counted on to help Pat with her oxygen and kept the motorized scooters in working order.

He always made sure she had plenty of oxygen bottles in the pickup and made sure she got her Saturday morning paper and breakfast.

After Chester passed away, Pat found a friend in Bernard Stottman. She and Bernard loved to travel, eat out, and go to the casinos. Kay and L.B. were still working full-time, so Bernard and Pat would take each other to their various doctor appointments and find interesting events to attend and enjoy.

Pat contracted pulmonary fibrosis in her last three years - a result of her working in offices that, at the time, allowed smoking inside and her many hours in contact with chemicals on the farm and the dust that goes with farming.

There is no cure for this disease now, but she always hoped for a medical breakthrough that would relieve her symptoms and allow her just a little more time with her beloved daughter, son-in-law, ranch foreman, and dear friend; but that was not to be.

She was pre-deceased by her father, mother, and older sister, Joyce and husband, Chester.

She is survived by her dauther, Kay and her husband L.B., the best foreman around, Mike Stotts, her special friend, Bernard Stottman, her hair-dresser of 42 years, Shelley Sparkman, her beloved canine companion, Reno, her exceptional horses, Ace, Chantilly, and Apollo and the uncountable friends she'd made in her long life.

At the end, she was brave and dignified, just as she was in life, and with her daughter holding her shoulder and hand; looking into each other's eyes, she walked through 'just another door' to a new life filled with happiness and health with her last words of "I love you".

Funeral services will be at 10 A.M., Tuesday, March 27, 2012, at the Steverson Funeral Home chapel with Samuel Ware, pastor of The Victory Assembly of God Church of Anadarko officiating.

Burial will follow in the Memory Lane Cemetery under the direction of the Steverson Funeral Home.

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